Comments on: I’m All For Sharing…BUT

By: lisa

lisa — Tue, 12 Dec 2006 20:29:46 +0000

Fraternal.

Not to get into the specifics, but what types of things do you fight about? Do you think the arguments are tied to competing with one another?

By: Kris in Hawaii

Kris in Hawaii — Tue, 12 Dec 2006 18:23:08 +0000

My twin sis and I always fought and still do.

Lisa–you don’t say (or did i miss it) whether you two were ID or fraternal??

By: lisa

lisa — Tue, 12 Dec 2006 16:47:00 +0000

Funny Amsterdamn. You’ll have to read my post on twins today. How weird he thinks your experiences are his. Unless of course you are mistaking his experiences for yours. Hmmmmmmm????

My sister and I didn’t fight often either. I remember 2 specific fights that were real. One was just irritation over close quarters and another was over a boy. My sister had a boyfriend who wasn’t treating her well and I was upset about it and lashed out. I’ll never forget that moment.

By: Amsterdamn

Amsterdamn — Tue, 12 Dec 2006 16:09:47 +0000

Hey Lisa,
I have an identical twin brother. We have shared virtually everything our whole lives, and have only had cross words on a couple of occasions in our entire lives. It was us against the world. It does bug me, though, that he “shares” memories: things that actually happened to me, he insists happened to him.
I forgive him, however.
He is just so good looking, you can’t be angry at him. ; )

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 12 Dec 2006 06:35:15 +0000

Interesting to hear your take on twinhood, I have twin daughters myself Would love to hear more about growing up as a twin if you would indulge us sometime..

(Like should I feel guilt that their two main Cmas gifts are shared ones even if they requested it that way? Or is it a crime to give identical gifts even though they both requested same?!)

Know what you mean. People have to learn to get along. I try my best..

By: Kris in Hawaii

Kris in Hawaii — Tue, 12 Dec 2006 03:49:40 +0000

As a twin also, I had to share a LOT. I think my twins do not really get the chance to share that much. I think it is because the are just plain spoiled!!!

But what you are talking about is called “kokua,” in Hawaii. Letting someone in ahead of you, that sort of thing. It’s just one special part of living in the islands. There are exceptions, but we do in general live with ‘lokahi’ (unity), pono (doing right); kokua (helpfulness) and aloha (love) here. Click on my little blog bumper sticker called Live Aloha, to read more!