I can’t think of a more unproductive emotion than being offended. What does it accomplish? It seems to give words or actions the power to immobilize you. “I’m offended.” Okay? So? What does one’s chosen take on words or a situation mean to the rest of us. Why should we care? Talk about a conversation killer. Where do you go from there?

I can handle someone disagreeing with me. A differing point of view gives the person on the receiving end somewhere to go. There is no residual feeling that I now have the extra duty of changing the person’s mind, though I may choose to try if I wish. With someone being offended there is an implication of mistreatment, a wrong that must be righted. It sounds so one sided, as if it is solely the fault of whoever initiated the words or actions. The ‘offended’ bears no responsibility in the outcome.

Honestly, I don’t remember ever being truly offended by something. I’m not even sure I know what it feels like. I’ve been turned off, angered, or puzzled by the words and actions of others. There has never been a need to drop the ‘O’ word, however. Perhaps the day will come where I decide, because I believe it is a decision, to make other people more responsible than myself for how much a message affects me. I hope not though.

One Response to “Offended”

  1. Jen says:

    I’m totally trying to get away from using this word. I, too, dislike it. It’s ingrained in my vocab unfortunately.